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[Article] The Art of Dating - how to cultivate healthy connections

Whether you are single and looking, or in a relationship and seeking better connection; the skills it takes to create and sustain an intimate connection are pretty much the same… And it’s never too late to start practicing them. Intimate relating takes practice, patience, and some good guidance!

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Speak your truth even if your voice shakes

"Speak the truth even if your voice shakes" - Maggie Kuhn

I love the quote above because for many years this is exactly what happened to me. Every time I expressed something that was vulnerable or made me emotional, my voice would shake…. a lot!

 

It made me hate these moments, I would feel weak, and embarrassed by my shaky voice. I would feel like no one would listen or take me seriously. Or worse... that they would pity me, and make fun of, or de-value the very sensitive truth I was sharing with them.

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What Makes You Feel Loved?


Some people dig Valentine's Day, others dread it. But I’m down with any day that has us turn our attention toward love.  Love is an on-going investigation in my world.

And one of the things I've learned about it over the years is that we all have different ways we feel and recognize love.

Some of us love to be touched, some love gifts, some love kind words or selfless acts of service. If you are aware of the things that make you feel loved, it is a huge gift to share that information with the people who want to love you.

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Making The Most of Your Holidays

I’ve been in hermit mode! This time of year does that to me….

It’s like all the activity from the year has caught up with me, and my body is asking me to take a break!

With all of the buzz happening from the holidays, to outrage over injustice, my desire to go within has been strong.  I’ve been taking time to really BE with everything that’s happened in my inner and outer worlds this year. I’ve been listening to what is ready to be let go, and what wants to be born next.

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Who is Holding Your Happiness Hostage?

Happiness has to be one of those desires right up there with winning the lottery, and world peace! I mean who doesn't want to be happy? That is if you aren't afraid of all those 'happy haters' out there. (you know who you are)

 It's way easier to be cynical, pissed off, frustrated, and depressed than it is to be happy. Not that it feels good to live in any of those states of being… but it doesn't require much work to get there or stay there.

 Happiness on the other hand is much more elusive than those other emotions. Why is it so much harder to be happy? Does happiness stay locked away somewhere until something comes along and sets it free? 

Who, or what is holding your happiness hostage?

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Where Is The Love?

If love is what we are made of, why do we spend so much time feeling fearful, guilty, shameful, and sad?.....

The headlines this week were enough to stir any of those emotions for sure. From the sad news about Robin Williams suicide. To the protests & riots in Ferguson, MO over the shooting of Michael Brown, another unarmed Black teenager killed by law enforcement. There is so much happening in our own lives, and the world around us that looks like the absence of love instead of love.

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I Appreciate You

Appreciation is a powerful energy. Taking a moment to recognize the value something holds for us, is a gift for the giver of appreciation, as well as the receiver. When you really drop into a feeling of appreciation for anything, watch what happens in your body... I get a warm tingling feeling in my chest, a smile finds its way to my lips, a wave of peace, and happiness comes over me. My whole mood shifts, if I let it. This was a huge change from what I was feeling earlier in the week when I was feeling overwhelmed and burdened by my to-do list.

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